Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Happiness Tuesdays #5

Happiness Counts!!!
I am beginning Happiness Tuesdays to tell you some things that make me happy and to share with you quotes, websites, and photos to make you happy!


Happiness Tuesdays #5:
Here are three things that make me happy:


1) red carnations - they were the flower of both F2's fraternity and my sorority in college
on my window sill
2) red or yellow tulips - beautiful sign of spring
fake, but beautiful

artwork, too

still fake, but it isn't spring yet, is it??

3) daisies - they were the flowers from our wedding :)
beautiful, huh?

Uh,oh, see what I just discovered...none of the flowers I love have much of a smell, do they?? Hmmm, I wonder what that says about me!!  Sometime soon I'll let you know what smells make me happy:)
In the meantime, what makes you happy? Let me know...

Happy Parenting!
D and C





Saturday, January 29, 2011

Respectful Behavior

     Respect is the most important quality for people of all ages to have.
amazingly respectful to their mom :)
     If you, as a mom or dad or teacher, ignore bad behavior then you are encouraging further bad behavior. Kids are always pushing boundaries - that's their job!! Our job as adults is to make sure the boundaries that we want are solid. If you think that some minor misbehaving is normal, you're right! That is true. However, the reason it is called misbehaving is because it isn't behavior that you want to have continue. So it is necessary - every time - to correct and redirect...doesn't matter what the age of the child is. Kids will learn one of two things: either misbehaving is tolerated or misbehaving is not tolerated. Which do you think will help your children in the future?
     It becomes a matter of respect. Do your kids listen to you and follow your directions? They should!! When they choose to disobey you, they are being disrespectful. It is normal for them to test your limits, but it should also be normal for you to reinforce the behaviors you do want.
     As a teacher, I have often made "Gold Coins of Respect" to explain and give to kids at school.

Gold Coin of Respect
On one side of the coin is the word 'respect' surrounded by three words, 'people', 'property', and 'self'. If kids can learn what it means -specifically - to respect other people, property, and themselves, then the idea of respect as a whole can be reinforced. I believe self-esteem comes from a healthy respect for 'self', not from other people patting them on the back for everything they do.

back side
The back side of the coin has three words from The Declaration of Independence: life, liberty, happiness. I tell the kids about the guarantee of life and liberty, but not a guarantee of happiness. We are only guaranteed the right to pursue happiness.
     The Gold Coin of Respect is just a symbol to remind kids of how to treat others, how to behave, and how to go after their own happiness.

"It is one of the most beautiful compensations in life...that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself."
                                         Ralph Waldo Emerson

Can you teach your children to respect themselves, to respect others, and to respect the boundaries you set for them?

Happy Parenting!
D and C



Thursday, January 27, 2011

My FAVORITE Kids' Book


     After talking about reading and kids' books recently, I realized I forgot the one book that makes my heart flutter a bit. It matches my boys so closely, and it matches, to a "T", my hope for brotherly love....without that nasty sibling rivalry!
The lovely book is "We're Very Good Friends, My Brother and I" by P.K. Hallinan:


doesn't it look cute?

aww...it's okay, little brother

looks like we can have fun together with a brush!


buds at the ocean
now, that's sweet...don't tell them I told you!

buds on vacation too

I love these pages so much I started taking pics of the guys from the back.
I can't find them all:(

can we make it?

You can find one of these photos at our website: childhood myths   check it out:)
Then some more when they are older.....

in Colorado with an incorrect time stamp!!

at Chad's house

     This post is totally about me and my love of a particular book and even more my love of Chad and Scott, my two guys!!
I hope you enjoy it and remember to take those photos!!!

Happy Parenting!
D and C










Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Happiness Tuesdays

Happiness Counts!!!
I am beginning Happiness Tuesdays to tell you some things that make me happy and to share with you quotes, websites, and photos to make you happy!


Week 4, Happiness Tuesdays:
Three things that make me happy!!


1) Laugh lines - they may as well make me happy, since I have them!!
2) Bright light - Sunshine or from light bulbs, I don't care. Light makes me cheerful!
3) McDonald's!! Sorry , sorry, all you healthy eaters, but I love MickeyD's  breakfast burritos and their delicious coffee...every morning...no, really... every morning!


I am giving you a couple of quotes that I agree with. How about you, do you agree also?


"Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been."   Mark Twain
"Ring the bells that can still ring."  Leonard Cohen




Happy Parenting!
D and C

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Reading with Kids

     How important is reading in a family?  Reading is an obvious help to kids intellectually, but it is also a great bonding opportunity. From the time you read to and with little ones right through the time you encourage their reading beyond high school, both of you benefit:)
     Babies: in and out of the womb, while cuddling, helping to recognize people, places, and animals, hearing rhythm and rhyme.


board books
Gyo Fujikawa...beautiful books for baby and beyond!

     Toddlers: great learning time. They suck up knowledge!! Repeat stories often, shapes, colors, numbers - and best of all, more time spent with you:)

another of Gyo's books

beautiful, inside and out

     Young ones (5-8ish): love humor and science - encourage both. Read stories about life skills: honesty, responsibility.

Berenstain Bears teach lots of values

read Mrs. Piggle Wiggle books out loud to your kids:)
     Kids older than about 9 tend to veer away from reading or read like crazy. This is also when many parents discontinue reading to their kids before bed since the kids can read on their own, but if you find interesting books a little above their reading level you can continue to read a chapter a  night of great books to them and enjoy that "us" time so important at that age. Many kids heard the Harry Potter books before reading them themselves.


Harry Potter can lead to Stephen King later in life

     Every night at our house, I would read 1 or 2 books to the boys. They had decided when they were young that they wanted to stay in the same bedroom, so they were in their own beds with me on the floor between them reading. After books, Daddy would tell a made-up Hiawatha story, such as How the Skunk got its Stripe. The boys loved them! More great memories!
     Now, for a moment of truth: neither boy enjoyed reading in high school or college!! Yikes, how did that happen?? But once they were out on their own I would share books that I loved. I convinced them to read Dan Brown's The Da Vinci Code which led them to appreciate reading again. I suggested a few more that they liked and now they do read much more often. Scott likes nonfiction best, while Chad enjoys Stephen King and that genre.

a favorite before it became a bestseller

     I'm glad they have found a joy of reading, but even if they hadn't...I would have loved every minute of the time we spent with them reading together, telling stories, and enjoying our time together as a family!!


An all-time favorite Richard Scarry book, along with
Cars and Trucks and Things That Go!!

Enjoy your reading time:)

Happy Parenting!
D and C








Thursday, January 20, 2011

Homework Blues?

     This is the time of year when report cards often come home giving parents lots of information on both academic progress and the behavior and work ethic of their children.
     We'll talk more in the future about the behavior portion of the card, but for now let's focus on grades and work ethic. What can you find out about your children from these cards?? What age levels are we talking about...actually, all of them in one way or another!


reading should always be an option when there is no homework
no matter what the age of the children
     Preschoolers' report cards: Look for comments on how they socialize with others, how well they listen, and how well they follow directions. You can help at home in all those areas. Watch how they interact with people and increase play group times if necessary. Make sure you follow through with consequences if the kids have a hard time listening to your directions the first time you give them or if they can't seem to complete tasks you give them. The more you encourage them now, the easier their school years will be in the future.
     Elementary kids' report cards: As the kids go through their elementary years keep a close eye on continuing trends over time--a hard time with math success or difficulty completing or turning in homework. Find consequences early on that help them to improve. Find specific places for homework to be done--PLEASE NOT in a bedroom filled with computers, TVs, video games, and phones. No matter how much they say they are working (and no matter how much you want to believe them) they will become distracted or disinterested. Elementary kids need constant oversight (every few minutes, not every half hour) to stay on task and to then feel the achievement of completing their homework successfully and in a minimum amount of time.
     High School kids' report cards: If high schoolers have learned that important work ethic when they were younger, you can loosen the reins a bit as long as their report cards show what you them to. Continue to look for sudden changes in work or behavior which should result in a tightening of those reins, back to more structure and oversight.

which leads to high school graduation

Chad was working in CO during his college graduation ceremony

another high school graduation

Scott's graduation from MSU

     There are many years of hard work and practice from preschool right through college for the kids, and lots of years of encouragement, boundaries, and discipline for the parents. But the rewards for both children and parents are huge in seeing those little guys become responsible, successful, independent young adults.

     More homework tips soon. Do you have any special questions or concerns you'd like us to deal with?? Send them along!

Happy Parenting!
D and C





Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Happiness Tuesdays

Happiness Counts!!!
I am beginning Happiness Tuesdays to tell you some things that make me happy and to share with you quotes, websites, and photos to make you happy!


Week 3, Happiness Tuesdays
Three things that make me happy:


1) Bob Seger songs-they strengthen my beliefs
2) Darius Rucker music-his voice is a treat to my ears
3) Josh Groban-fills up my spirit


I hope you enjoy your children's joy of music, all kinds. Listen to what they like, have fun with them, and share your joy with them.
Here is a video for you to enjoy and a site for great kids' songs to share with your cuties:



At the mall, the Hallelujah Chorus..beautiful!

Wee Sing Silly Songs: we sang these songs constantly in the car...lots of great fun. They brought the whole family happiness.

Happy Parenting!
D and C
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